Losing weight = losing friends
Ok this is something new that I am struggling with….I have had a best friend for 12 years and now that I have lost weight she never talks to me, I call her she never returns my calls, and I miss our friendship. I attribute this to my weight being a lot less than hers now, as we used to go out to eat and do yard sales, and eat afterwards, and watch movies, and eat afterwards, and go to the mall, and Eat….so now I am watching what I eat so, no more eatting parties….I miss this, but I am adjusting because I know you can’t eat everything yummy and maintain weight loss. People say to me when are you going off of your diet? I say this is my NEW way of living, not so much a diet as people call it, but a change in what I eat now! I avoid beef, sodas, junk food, unless it is lowfat, fat free, or cookies on sunday at church….GOD takes the calories out of them when I eat them only on Sunday…..But anyways, now I have another friend who tells me she misses the FAT Angie, and this hurts, because I am the same person, just I can’t Eat everything bad, because Lets face it, I have done this too many times and I know if you cheat it will catch up with you. How do people think you get smaller? thinner? magically? and that it is fun not being able to eat and enjoy sociallizing while eatting? Its not!!! I wish I could eat free as I choose, I miss that, I love to eat! But I am no fool, I know what to do…but it gets lonely at the top when friends think you are thin so your no fun….Oh well I will lose one friend and keep trying to convince my other friend that I am not a different person, just smaller… but it does stink that as you maintain weight control issues, other issues start to mount…why does everything have to be so complicated????
I am so sorry angie….she just needs to realize you are the same you…
Keep thinking about yourself and how much you feel better about yourself! If she was a real friend than she would still be your friend! Keep up the great work! DONT WORRY I WILL BE YOUR FRIEND!!!
jennifer
It just like when you quit drinking. My husband did and lost all his old ‘drinking buddies’. Some of them he knew since 4th grade. But he was ‘no fun’ anymore so they moved on. Sounds like you’re losing all your old ‘eating buddies’. It’s sad, but sometimes you just have to let go. You are living a new, healthy life. They aren’t. They will try to get you to come back… “aww come on, just one drink won’t hurt..” or in your case, one “lunch out, like we used to…” Well, you know where it will lead, but it will make them feel better to know you are just as bad as them. That is not a friend. Face it, unless you want to go back to where you were, you will have to make new friends. And you will. You already have some here.
I don’t think that your friend is really thinking about you at all, and by that I mean that the reason that she isn’t spending time with you like she used to, is because you are a threat to her now. She was smaller before, so consciously or unconsciously she felt that she was better than you to some degree. It may have been that she felt she had more will power, or whatever. But now, you have been able to do something that she secretly hasn’t been able to do. You made a conscious decision to do something positive for yourself and you succeeded. Hooray for you. She envies that in you, and now is uncomfortable around the new you. So it’s not that she thinks you have changed, she has changed in how she views this new, slimmer, prettier you. You should be proud of yourself. Pray for her, and that’s all that you can do. I’m proud of you, and hope that I can be as successful as you have been.FR86X
I have people telling I’m not the same either, but they need to look inside us. I’m proud of what you have accomplished. And your true friends will be too.
